The reality of gardening with children.

It’s hard!

My garden is a mess, a disorganised jumble of chaos that takes up my time, means I don’t do housework or get the dinner cooked and my kids don’t even like it. But I do; and so every now and again, when a small snippet of free time might come my way, I disappear into my garden, or down to my allotment, and I instantly remember why I like it so much.

For me it is the peace, the being surrounded by life, by growth and by change. It’s about the colours, the smells, the productivity and the purpose. Breathing in the fresh, outdoor air can melt away all my troubles in an instant, the days stresses dissolve into nothing.

That isn’t to say it doesn’t also cause stress. Recently, after a couple of weeks away from the garden, for various reasons, I return to this…


I have one carrot that has kindly been spared by the slugs and some potatoes in there somewhere. (Upon editing this article I should say that my one carrot has now been squashed by the builder placing a large pile of bricks on top it, and on top of my 3 pea plants…)

My one carrot that is no more…

I haven’t been to the allotment for even longer and quite honestly I am dreading what I will find there, if there is anything left among the weeds to find.

Trying to keep a garden, on top of all the other demands of raising a young family, is a very hard thing to do. I often have to make the decision whether to have a clean kitchen or a weed free vegetable bed and considering the rest of my family don’t see the veggie bed, I’m sure you can guess which they would prefer.

I chose to tidy the green house over the washing up!

I have come to the realisation that as parents in a modern world, we are taking the world on our shoulders, and not always with much support. With this in mind, I think we need to be proud of ourselves. If you have a slug infested garden with one carrot in it, well that’s one more than none so be proud of it. If the builder puts a pile of bricks on that one carrot then it’s a real shame, but it can’t be helped, and you can always sow some more.

Children grow up, life changes and develops and we all have to start somewhere, so start. I am not about being perfect, I am about giving it a go, trying my best and taking comfort in the little things. In my mind, growing anything when raising a family, is an achievement, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem so we should all take pride in what we do, as long as we are trying, that’s all we can do.

If you want to start a garden with your children, check out out super simple Grow sets. They contain everything you need to sow your first plants and fun activities to engage the children. These make great gifts too.


2 thoughts on “The reality of gardening with children.

  1. Charmane Reply

    Realistic article and nice to hear others are struggling too. I have a good size veggie garden and my regular aesthetically, curb appealing gardens. With a 7 and 2 year old who have not embraced their independence yet, it is very hard to maintain. Year after year I question whether to do my veggie garden, but it’s a tradition taken and embraced from my most beloved, deceased father. It’s not an option, I must do it, in memory of him. Gardening is a good life skill to teach and pass onto my kids. Weeds will always be there but the tranquility, peace and thoughts that my garden provide me, make the struggle worthwhile!

    1. Garden Mama Reply

      Hi Charmane, I totally agree about gardening being a good like skill for children, it is so important for them to learn about where food comes from, and life in general for that matter. Keep at it, you are totally right, it is a very worthwhile struggle! xx

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